"Fear not what you can do yourself, but fear what others can do to you!"... wait, that's not it... "The only thing we have to fear, is the fear of other idiots!".... nope... one more... "fear is only as deep as you let your enemies drive it into you"... sigh...
Okay, don't quote me then. Fear sucks. Fear of heights, fear of snakes, fear of death. But I think the biggest fear is the fear instilled by another human being which in turn, causes us to have fear within ourselves.
I have been involved in a few situations in the past few years that have brought me a little closer to the fear factor. People get off on trying to scare you, to intimidate you, to create fear. It has been family related, money related, and legally related. What I find the most interesting of all is that the basic idea behind all of these things is to make someone else feel like shit.
When you think positive, you feel positive, and when you feel positive it can do two things: 1) Make those around you feel better, about themselves, about the day, whatever. 2) Make those who have a problem with you REALLY pissed off.
The last thing your arch nemesis wants for you is to succeed and be happy. Hopefully you don't have an "arch nemesis" in your life but more likely than not you have encountered those who have some beef with you. These are typically miserable, negative, saddened, lonely people who are not happy or satisfied with their own lives. By lonely I don't mean alone. You can have 20 people standing around you at all times and still be lonely. How so? Because you are not happy or fulfilled with your own self. If you don't like YOU then how can you expect others to follow suit? It is hard to convince people to think "damn that chick is awesome" if you look in the mirror every day thinking you are an unhappy, unattractive, unwealthy, unhealthy, etc.. etc... individual.
Life brings us experiences and with experience comes mistakes. We all make mistakes. We are not perfect and we should never claim to be. I've made more mistakes than I care to admit but I've learned from each and every one of them & hopefully, won't repeat them. When you learn from them, you persevere. When you repeat them, well... you are an idiot.
There is this thing called forgiveness. You don't have to forget what someone did to you but you can forgive them. This is an individual choice and one that is hard to do for some people, sometimes you simply can't forgive someone for their actions if they are just that bad. But I've learned a few things this past few years about forgiveness. It is much easier and healthier than hate and plotting revenge. I've even taken to forgiving some real shitbags simply because I feel sorry for them. When you are in your teens & 20's it can be common to have that "get even" spirit. I've been there, I've done it. She said, he said, I'm going to call her & tell her, you call them and tell them, lets stir the proverbial pot. When you are young (I hate to admit it) it's fun. As you get older, hopefully you realize that the idea of "sweet revenge" isn't really all that fun... it is draining and taxing and frankly I have better things to do with my life than spend another moment on someone else's anger and stupidity.
So much for getting off track. Fear. When someone is pissed at you they can threaten you, taunt you, hate you, or plot against you. This takes effort and energy. What they want to create is fear and misery. When you give in to that fear, they win. Same goes for fear created in our day to day lives. Our world is scary but you have to life your life each day to the fullest if you can. Just as there was a horrific massacre in a Kenyan mall last week, you or I could find ourselves standing in the wrong building at the wrong time and someone could shoot me or blow up the place I stand. I'm not trying to be morbid but I am trying to be realistic because this is the world we have created and the one we live in.
Life is short. As I sit her typing, this is my life. It is passing me by with each and every second, minute, hour and day and once it passes, I can't get it back. Neither can you. My 45th birthday is in a few weeks and I reflect back to my mother saying "time flies by, before you know it you'll by my age!"... Yup... she was right. As far as I am concerned, I was 30, like... a week ago. I realize that giving in to the fear that these idiots in my life are creating is senseless. I have a great family both immediate and by marriage, great friends and students and I simply cannot live life looking over my shoulder waiting to see what trick is up "their" sleeve. My main goals in life are to create a happy family and as much abundance as possible. I am working on the abundance as we speak. When someone has a problem with you, the last thing they want to see you do is succeed so it is my new goal in life to do just that. Succeed.... big time... with honors.
I won't spend too much time on word wars with "you". I won't spend much time getting stressed out over "your" actions towards me, and I will do everything in my God-given power to make sure that I create a fantastic life for my family as well as being positive and happy while I do it. Want to talk about me? Go ahead, because I won't respond on "your" level...why not you ask? Because your level is low class. What I realize is that YOU have the problem not me. YOU have chosen to spend YOUR time and effort in YOUR life to bother me, us, and everyone that doesn't agree with YOU. I won't waste MY time and energy on you. With all that said, take these words in BOTH directions. Don't give in to the fear and don't create the fear.
Is this post personal? Yes, personal to me. It is personal for me to pass on the message that fear is something that should be reserved for your fear of sharks, small places, spiders, and things that go bump in the night. Not the fear of the average Jane & John Doe who's priorities are in the wrong place.
Use your energy wisely my friends, life is happening here and now and what is gone, can't be brought back.
Live your life to the fullest... live your life with happiness... and most of all:
"Find yourself and love what you find" - K. Crisp
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